Wednesday, May 2, 2018

It's All About The Food Over Here

Well, I didn't get this post done before the end of Autism Awareness month, but y'all get to read it anyway, because it's Always Autism Awareness month at our house :)
James loves food. It’s his drug of choice. Literally. He likes oatmeal, and eats it almost every day. But he LOVES pizza, and will eat a whole pie by himself and have a stomach ache, then get up at 2am and try to make another one. He eats mustard (and sometimes ketchup) with everything. Pretzels, bacon, fish sticks, fries, bread, etc. He likes normal stuff like PB&J- grape jelly only please with creamy pb and cut into 4 squares, tuna fish- made with just mayo and hold the bread, hot dogs with- you guessed it- ketchup and mustard, toast, plain or salt and vinegar potato chips, Doritos, mac'n'cheese, pancakes, chicken nugget happy meals from McD’s, chocolate milk, soda, cheese sticks, apples and peanut butter, tomatoes, pineapple, kiwis, bananas, strawberries, cucumbers, celery, watermelon, peaches, cherries, grapes, carrots, baby oranges, OutShine grape popsicles, anything chocolate, sweet potato pie, and loads more that I can’t think of right now, but all of it terribly specific.
I’m really lucky that James is such a good eater, a lot of autistic kids really struggle with foods and eating. James has struggled a little bit, but mostly when he younger, and more with not being able to digest things. We have had him on a dairy free/gluten free diet since he was 3, and we have slowly upgraded him to organic whole wheat and organic dairy (in small quantities) in the last year or so. We've also had to be careful about giving him meat. He loves hot dogs, bologna, pepperoni, bacon, and sausage, and will eat meat in Large quantities. For example, he could eat a whole package of bacon by himself when he was 5. But he doesn't digest it well, and we have to make sure that we limit it to a normal sized portion and not too often. We can tell when he’s had too much of something he shouldn't have, because he gets stinky-gassy and complains that his stomach hurts. It also happens when he overeats. We have to be really careful not to let him overeat. It’s a weird problem to have but it’s nicer than having to force feed him. He actually likes food so much that he’s started helping me cook. He nibbles at garlic, onions, and salad, he stirs things on the stove, cuts veggies up for me, adds butter or salt to whatever is in a pan on the stove, and sometimes I wake up and see eggs, sugar and milk all mixed together in a pan in the oven. Sometimes it’s frustrating, like when he adds frozen veggies to my boiling potatoes, or puts noodles in water before it’s ready, but it’s also really cute that he’s trying to help. 
He’s really good at cleaning too. He puts his dishes in the sink and rinses them off if they are dirty. He puts his leftovers in the trash and puts food in the fridge. He unloads the dishwasher, takes out the trash, puts a new bag in the trash can, takes out the recycling, moves the laundry from the washer to the dryer and then to the basket and puts it in the couch. He puts his toys away, puts his laundry in the basket, and tries to wash out his poopy pull-ups when he has an accident, and he wipes up his spills off the floor. He even helped us rake up the leaves in the backyard a few months ago. He loves to go to the dump with Tom too. He doesn't do most of these things all by himself, he still needs verbal prompts and a buddy to assist sometimes, but it’s progress. Another emerging skill is grocery shopping. He likes to put the food on the conveyor belt, bag the groceries, put them in the cart, load them into the car, bring them into the house, unload the bags onto the counter and put them away. I’m just happy he likes to help :)
One more thing I forgot to mention, he LOVES to remove nail polish. He likes to have me paint them, but he REALLY likes taking the polish off too lol! I should be taking more pics of him helping out with stuff, but mostly I'm busy encouraging or directing him to get it done, so......


Monday, April 16, 2018

It's Great To Be 8.....Or 9.....And Autistic

Many of you know that we are members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. One of our customs is for the children to baptized at the age of 8, After they have been interviewed to be sure that they understand the doctrine, of course. What does this have to do with autism, you wonder lol! Well, when your child is unable to understand the commitment they are making by being baptized, you may choose not to have have them baptized. We had to make that choice with James. It was especially hard because he's the last baby, numero cinco, and I was really looking forward to savoring all the 'one last time' moments in his life. This was going to be the last time I would have a child baptized. 
And then he couldn't be baptized. 
There are so many 'last times' that I don't get to experience, and I feel a bit cheated. I'm looking back at my experiences with Jack, thinking to myself 'if only I had known that THAT was actually the last time'....anyway, I digress. James didn't get baptized. It was hard. We got over it. End of story. 
Except......my beautiful friend saw my pain, and did some special photos for me of my sweet autism baby, to celebrate his 8th year. 
She made secret plans with my amazing girls to sneak over to my house and take pictures of James while I was out. She's a professional photographer, so, of course the pictures are gorgeous, and my little dude is sooo handsome. Can I say it too many times? I really do have the best friends, and I don't know how I would have gotten through the last few years without you guys.... *sniff, sniff*.....I have been so blessed to have you as part of my village.
Anyway, Please enjoy the following pictures of my lil dude commemorating his 8th birthday.....he's going to be 10 this fall, and he looks so young here....Time flies....













Sunday, April 15, 2018

My Quirky Son

James is obsessed with Toy Story. Jack was obsessed with it when he was little too, but he outgrew it when he was about 7, which was right around when James picked it up. Jack was a die-hard Buzz Lightyear fan, James is Team Woody, or, Jessie in a pinch. I'm sure you've seen Woody lurking somewhere in just about every picture I post of James. These are a few of James Woody dolls that I saved in his special box for when he's an adult. My favorite is zombie Woody with no arms. We replace Woody pretty regularly, probably one every 6-8 weeks, depending on whether or not James is teething. We went through 3 in a month when his adult molars came in last fall lol. I spend a lot of time sewing them back up and replacing their stuffing because they are expensive to replace, usually about $35 a pop. He got some new Woody's in December.....a friend of ours works in the souvenir business and has a friend at Disney, who got us 14 Woody dolls at cost, and kindly mailed them to us in time for Christmas :) Cost means we only paid like $14 for them, which is a huge savings for us. I've said it before, and I'll say it again, we do have the Best friends, Thanks again, guys! The video of him opening them is kind of hilarious lol!



James' love of Woody and Toy Story has been long running, and he's a fixture in our household, just like he was for Andy in the Toy Story movies. When James was little, he used to recreate scenes from the movie. I did a post about it that you can read here: 

I think that's about all for this post, Thanks for reading and being a part of our lives for a bit. I've really been trying to be more open about how autism affects our lives since it's Autism Awareness month. The last post was a little sad, so hopefully this one makes up for it :)
Cheers!

Wednesday, April 11, 2018

April Is For Autism Awareness

A few days ago, I was snuggled up on the couch with James. He was watching The Jungle Book, or Mobley as he calls it, on his kindle. He was smiling and giggling as he watched the characters sing and dance around. I asked him if he was watching Mobley and he grinned at me and laughed. I started to sing along with the Bare Necessities song. He stopped smiling and laughing. He looked up at me. He wasn’t smiling. Faster than I could react, he reached up and hit me. Twice. Hard enough to stun me, hard enough to hurt my feelings. I gasped and stopped smiling. He looked at me. He was unhappy with me. I tell him ‘say sorry mom, for hitting you’. He echos me awkwardly. I look at him. I'm not smiling. He watches me for a minute. Then he laughs at me. I feel tears welling up and running down my cheeks. He goes back to watching his movie. I wondered to myself, what kind of crazy world am I living in where that is what happens when I sing along with a song? In what universe is this a normal occurrence? When did things like this become so commonplace in my life that it’s not that big a deal anymore?

And then I realize, This is life with autism. This is my normal. Things like this happen to me, my other kids and my husband every day. We make jokes about some of the things that happen, and we post lots of cute pics and videos of James on Facebook and Instagram to document the good things, but this is the reality. This is the every day struggle. This month is Autism Awareness Month. And this is my reality.



Thursday, March 29, 2018

Spring Break....Or Is It Easter Vacation?

We are coming up on the first vacation of the year :) My kids are really lucky, their breaks last a week or more, besides the odd day off for random holidays like Presidents Day. We always take the kids to do fun stuff when they don't have school, but the last few years, we have made an effort to do something that takes up the whole week. Why? Well, there are several reasons, which I will now share :)

#1. Because why not...the kids are only young once, and it takes time to get to some places so if you have a week, you have time lol. We are still regretting not taking that camping trip to Maine that got cancelled twice before Nana got married and moved out. Time flies, people, take those trips and spend time with your babies before it's too late.

#2. Because autism. Life with James requires us to push his boundaries a little on a regular basis. He would be perfectly happy sticking to his familiar routines, but by taking trips, we can incorporate his consistent love of being in the car with a little push into new adventures and experiences. It is crucial for his future development to expose him to as many "NORMAL" activities as possible, so he can progress emotionally and socially.

#3. Because caregivers need a break too. What is that old saying? "A change is as good as a rest".....I am a full time caregiver, not just for James, but for Calvin, who is also autistic, as well as bi-polar, and of course, Jonathan, Rayzel and, not so much anymore, Savannah. I'm not just a Mom, I'm an Autism Mom, so I don't get breaks unless I'm sleeping and sometimes I just need a change in order to keep doing what I do for everyone. And lets not forget that the hubby needs lots of love and care as well, not to mention the odd vacation himself and a chance to remember that he's not just a police officer, he's a much needed husband and father.

#4. Because family. A lot of our trips revolve around visiting family and friends who don't live nearby. It's hard when you have kids with disabilities, it's hard to fit in, hard to socialize, hard to make and keep friends. We value those of you who support and encourage us, and make it possible for us to be included. Therefore, we are happy to travel to Delaware, Wyoming, Texas, Colorado or even Brazil to see you.... because you are our tribe :) You accept us with all our special needs and quirky personalities. You make us feel loved, and we desperately need that.

That's all the reasons I can think of before James gets home from school, so I'll leave the list here. I am super excited to be visiting family in Chapel Hill, North Carolina this next week. We are taking Rayzel's senior pictures there as well, and she has some fun places picked out that I think even James will enjoy...think carousels, candy stores and ice cream ;)
We are also going to squeeze in a trip to visit Calvin at Job Corp in Lynchburg, Virginia, returning 3 days early from Spring Break so that Jack can visit Gettysburg with his scout troop.
Happy Easter everyone!!!!!

Thursday, February 22, 2018

Foodies

We love to try new restaurants. It's a thing with us. We love to cook our own food, but we also love to try other people's food :D
We've tried quite a few new places lately and they were all pretty good, so I thought I'd go ahead and review them for you :)

Restaurant #1: Martins Grill
Last Saturday, we went to lunch with my bro and his wife after helping them move. So sad they won't be as close, but NC isn't too far to visit, thank goodness lol. Anyway, they took us to this local mom and pop place near their old house. Good family restaurant, and not expensive. James loved the hot dog and fries. I had a burger and tater tots which were greasy, but most excellent! The coleslaw was also really good. My Dad got a brisket sandwich, which looked Amazing. They had Cheerwine in the bottle, so totally a win for me. I'd DEFINITELY eat there again.

Restaurant #2: Capital Ale House
This was our Valentines Day dinner spot. Tom's pick, and while it was a lil more expensive than we normally do, the food was pretty good as was the ambiance. We had the Bavarian pretzel appetizer, which was excellent, Tom ordered the Chesapeake mac'n'cheese, and I had a steak with mashed potatoes and broccoli. My food was good, didn't love the potatoes, they were oddly sweet, but broccoli and steak were perfect :) Tom's mac'n'cheese was full of seafood, but the cheesy sauce was more sauce and less cheese, so not as good as expected. There were a ton of other things on the menu that looked good, so, I'd go back again for sure!

Restaurant #3: Shyndigz
We went here for dessert on Valentines day, on the recommendation of a friend. We were not disappointed! The desserts were incredibly fabulous, the ambiance was fantastic, and the company was the best part :) I had the salted chocolate caramel cake, and Tom had a mint brownie sundae. Both were heavenly. It was like eating dessert on the Great British Baking Show. The cake was a large portion, and soooo rich that I took it home and ate it for 3 more days lol! We will definitely be going back there.

Restaurant #4: The Patron
We like to keep the party rolling, so, the day after Valentines Day, we went out to dinner again. Tom is on midnight's for the next month, so we only see him for 36 hours a week :( 
Dinner out two days in a row seemed justified since we have such limited time together. 
This local Mexican restaurant is now my fav place to eat. The food was yummy, the prices were good, the variety was staggering. I had the carnitas, Tom had the shrimp fajitas. Both were delicious. Sorry, Don Pedro's, this restaurant is replacing you in the regular rotation. Side note, I haven't had Mexican food this good since we moved here. For the most part Mexican food is good wherever you choose to eat, but this place...this place has Really Good Mexican food. I'm in love. 

Restaurant #5: Java Jack's
We ended up here in early February. We had a great need for lunch and it was right in the neighborhood where we had been running errands. It has great ratings, but frankly, we were underwhelmed with the price of food versus quality. It wasn't bad, it just wasn't great. I had a turkey croissant sandwich, Tom had the crab cake sandwich. Both were ok, but not for the price we paid. It's a cute restaurant, but we probably won't eat there again. Also, their website doesn't work, which is one of my pet peeves. Maybe if we had gone there for breakfast instead of lunch.....

Restaurant #6: Citizen Burger Bar
This was a date we did back in January. We went to the VMFA (https://www.vmfa.museum/
and had lunch afterwards. This place has a GREAT burger. It's a farm to table restaurant, so all the ingredients were very fresh, and super good. We had the burgers, obviously...I had the citizen burger, and Tom had the steakhouse burger. Both were heavenly. I would eat there weekly if it were closer. The fries were OK, boardwalk style which don't float my boat, but there were plenty of them, so portions were good. Tom got the onion rings, which were a little bland but otherwise good. We will def be going back when we are downtown again :)

PS- Anytime y'all want to get food with us, just shoot me an email. We would love to share the experience with friends :)

Wednesday, February 14, 2018

Valentines Day

It's the annual Day of Love! Here are a few memes I've seen today that I Can't stop loving :)
Enjoy!


Saturday, February 3, 2018

New Years Resolutions

I know It's February 3rd, not January 1st, but since my Mom died at Christmas 2 years ago, the holidays are spent in survival mode until the end of January. So, last week, on a particularly fine day when the temperature Actually Reached 70 degrees, I finalized my list of New Years resolutions. I'm not going to post my personal list, but I thought I would gp ahead and share the article that inspired my choice of resolutions. And before you ask, no, I'm not going to be killing anyone this year. Good luck everyone!

Thursday, February 1, 2018

Proud Mama

My baby won an award! I'm so proud :)
She got some of her facts wrong about James, (which is why you should call your mom, before you publish) but it was still a great paper. 
Everyone must read it!


Monday, January 29, 2018

Pipe Dreams

Last semester, while attending Pathways, there was a lot of emphasis placed on goals, setting goals, moving forward, having a plan, building on your plan, etc. Honestly it was a little stressful. I've always had plans, goals, dreams, but the whole having a family thing takes up 90% of my free time, so, most of my dreams are just in a dusty box in the corner of my brain. Actually, Pathways was a little painful for me in that respect, because it forced me to open some of those forgotten boxes and examine their contents, some to be discarded, and some to be sighed over and put back in a corner. Here, today, I'm going to share one of those dreams. Ready? 
HOMESTEADING!!!!
I finally have the perfect set-up to accomplish my homesteading dreams. It won't happen for a number of reasons, but that isn't the point of this post. Let me share with you, My Vision! 

1. Starting small, 55 gallon rainwater barrels, one on each of the 10 gutters coming off my roof. These ones are my favorite :)

2. Bare root fruit trees. I'd plant as many different kinds of fruit as I could in the space that I have. The dwarf trees get fruit a lot sooner than full size trees, and are the perfect size for kids to help take care of. This store online is my favorite :)
https://www.groworganic.com/fruit-nut-trees/bareroot-trees.html

3. Garden beds are essential for my farm, and I really like these covered ones. It gets so hot here that the plants burn in the sun, so I think these will help my plants stay cool and moist :)
http://swingncocoa.blogspot.com/2013/04/covered-green-house.html

4. I also need a greenhouse, for growing fresh herbs and strawberries year round. This one looks fantastic.
http://theelliotthomestead.com/2014/07/how-to-build-a-greenhouse/

5. Next step- Bees!!! I've always wanted to keep my own bees. They are notoriously tricky, but I think this hive would be perfect, in combination with the planting of bee friendly plants for my bees to enjoy so they don't roam too far off.
https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/flow-hive-honey-on-tap-directly-from-your-beehive-environment--5#/
https://www.motherearthnews.com/homesteading-and-livestock/beekeeping/bee-gardens-ze0z11zhir

6. I hate mosquitoes, so I'd plant as many mosquito repellent plants as I can fit near the deck and the main house.
https://www.chasingfoxes.com/8-amazing-plants-thatll-repel-mosquitoes-pests/

7. Compost is important. We already compost, but it's early days yet. We haven't actually gotten to use our compost. This is the method we went with. Very kid friendly. We are going to add a second one just for our leaves, as there are too many of those for one bin, but they make good compost.
https://www.amazon.com/Geobin-SYNCHKG043886-Compost-Bin-GEOBIN/dp/B0085O6NXQ/ref=sr_1_8?ie=UTF8&qid=1517261654&sr=8-8&keywords=compost+bin

While writing this post over the last week, I lost the Master List, so this is all I have for now. I'll post a Part 2 when I get my act together hahaha! Happy Gardening :)

Some Thoughts I was Thinking

Every year, my kids throw me a birthday party. Sometimes big, sometimes small, but always with a homemade birthday cake :) One year, my son threw me a 3 quarters birthday party...it was very cute :)  Yesterday, while sitting in the car with James, waiting for church to be over, I was pondering the whole birthday thing. Birthdays. They happen once a year. You mark yourself as another year older. What’s the big deal? Well, it’s the anniversary of the day you entered the world. Hopefully you are happy to be here. And your birthday is the perfect moment for your family and friends to let you know how happy THEY are that you are here and are part of their world :) It’s not about the presents (although it may be a little bit about the cake lol), it’s about the love. Everyone needs to feel loved. Everyone wants to be appreciated. Having a party once a year to celebrate someone’s existence is possibly the best gift you can give them. The gift of seeing them, really seeing them, and acknowledging their presence, makes them feel special. It’s quite extraordinary how a simple yearly event, properly planned, can make a person so much more aware of their value, their place and individual impact in their home and community. For another year, at least :)
It’s the same with Valentine’s Day and anniversaries. It’s a bit more personal though, as it’s a chance for you to celebrate the one you love, or the memory of the day you married the one you love. Unlike birthdays, they are a romantic occasion, and hard to fully appreciate when you invite your children and friends along lol. Keeping the romance in the event is a bit more complex than just leaving the kids at home though. It requires more work, as you are elevating the main activities from just dinner or errands out, to something more meaningful. It will require some advance thought, some knowledge of what is special to your other half. These occasions are about intimacy and love, not gifts. Gifts are nice, and hopefully show some creativity, some insight or knowledge into the other persons personality and preferences, but it’s really the thought behind the gift that makes it exciting and romantic, not the amount of money spent. What transforms the usual date night into a magical event is the planning and forethought. It’s adding layers of personal touches to your typical dinner-and-a-movie plans, and then being able to communicate to your sweetheart why you made those particular choices in planning. Hopefully you made them with the other person in mind, hahaha. It’s also extremely important to articulate how you feel while executing the plan, and reminisce about how you felt on the original occasion. Volunteering your innermost self creates intimacy, which is very appealing to the other person. Always remember that being one with the other is more important than anything else. Romance requires intimacy, knowing the other person as well as you know yourself. This is your chance to show your significant other how well you know them, and to enhance the quality of the relationship. 
Now, I know a lot of people don't celebrate birthdays or other special occasions. This post isn't about telling people what they should do or how they should feel. This post is simply a (slightly ranty) train of thought that I had in the car yesterday. I hope you enjoyed reading it as much as I enjoyed getting it out of my head and onto paper. Cheers!

Saturday, January 13, 2018

The Typing Conundrum

I have this problem, where my brain moves faster than my mouth has utterance, (or my fingers have type-ance lol) so I have these grand ideas that I can't seem to get onto paper because I'm super frustrated by my inability to express myself the way I do in my head. It's a bummer. I'm hoping that by blogging more, I will get more comfortable with expressing myself through written words, and possibly I will eventually learn to type faster :) 
My ultimate point is that I am constantly working on blog posts, and until I've finished one, all you get is what I had for dinner last night, which was incredibly delicious, by the way!
I used avocado oil, 2 extra cloves of garlic, an extra inch of ginger, only 2 TBSP of the red curry paste, 2 TBSP honey, light coconut milk, a generous handful of chopped cilantro, I skipped the nuts, and I served it with the King's sweet Hawaiian rolls. Next time I think I will add an extra TBSP of lime juice...it was quite sweet, which was actually really good, but I bet it would have been better with some more lime :)




Saturday, January 6, 2018

Other People's Business

So, today, I went online and looked for other peoples blogs to read, instead of writing on my own blog. I know, so dumb lol, especially since I mostly blog for myself. It's one of the few places that only I exist, unless I choose to include others. I can talk about anything I want, any time, with no interruptions. But, I digress. 
Anywhoo, I spent about 4 hours looking at the 'next blog', clicking that button over and over, looking for interesting and/or uplifting content. This is what I actually found: Lots and lots of fishing blogs, lots and lots of anime blogs, lots of 'blog is blocked for mature content' blogs, and last but not least, most peoples blogs were two to six years out of date. Apparently people start blogs all the time and just abandon them. Suddenly, I feel GREAT about my blog!
Also, I feel inspired to write a post about my experience trying to find a good blog. Tell me, peeps, which blogs do you read? Send me links! 

(Apparently)

Friday, January 5, 2018

School's Out

Guys, I have made the hugely ginormous decision NOT to go back to school this semester. 
As ready as I am to continue my education, it's just not the right time for my family. 
I'm devastated. 
Even though I know I'm doing the right thing. 

Maybe I'll blog more. Maybe I'll finally finish some of my sewing projects. Maybe I'll cook more. Maybe I'll finally see my friends more. Maybe my house will be cleaner. But the reality is that mostly what I have done so far is catch up on all the TV shows I missed last semester. Not because I missed watching so much TV, but because I'm sad. 

Send me your positive vibes, my friends, 2018 is starting off a lil rough for me...